Don’t torture yourself even more by hunting his new main squeeze on social, or haunting him with a strategic ‘like’ on one of his unfortunately sad Facebook posts. You don’t need anyone like that in your world and you seriously dodged a bullet on this one. That just makes you look like the bad guy in the situation. For example: if you drunkenly proposed to him on the second date, he should chalk it up to alcohol and have a laugh with you about it the next day. These discussions aren’t all that different from those of generations past: pick up lines have always been picked apart and the art of the voicemail analyzed by singles long before the advent of texting.And many of the old, gendered traditions of who reaches out to whom and when have (for better or worse) persisted.Whatever you call them, flirty text messages are the reality for most people dating in 2017.
Waiting for me were five lengthy text messages from a guy I had been seeing for two months."Oh my God, he’s so desperate,” my friend said when she saw my screen.“This is totally normal for us,” I explained. ” I scrolled up to show her my seven unanswered text messages before, his three blocks of text before that and so on.I knew Bill was on deadline for work, so I gave him space. I stalked his social media to make sure he was still alive—and was he ever. Should this guy—or anyone, really—get a pass just because he doesn't feel like going through the awkwardness of ending things?After yet another day of silence, I finally texted him. He'd been posting regularly on Instagram and Twitter, and as I scrolled through his feed, my head started spinning. "You can't get a peep out of him, yet you can see that he's talking to the whole world on social media."It did suck, and I wondered: What makes a seemingly good guy go from everything to nothing? Aijan says that guys who do a 180 experience what's called cognitive dissonance—a kind of mental stress that occurs when we have two conflicting beliefs about something.Greenberg confirms what many of us already know: More than likely, your crush is into you if they carry on the conversation and respond without too much of a lag time. (But if you're already there, here's how to kick the conversation up a notch.)While we're arguably more in control of and confident about our sexuality than ever, there's still so much we don't know about female arousal.So this month, we're exploring everything you want and need to know about how women get turned on now.